I have been single for twelve days to be exact (and counting). Twelve days in which I have laughed, I have cried, I have learned and experienced new things about myself, have reconnected with friends again, but mostly, have been disappointed by men. During these last twelve days, in which I have been publicly single, men have just been trying to attack me, like I am some sort of prey. Maybe it was like this before I got into this relationship -I don’t remember it being that way- or maybe guys just think I’m a desperate single girl looking for a rebound. Whatever the case for their behavior, it disgusts me, it saddens me, and it angers me deeply.
I was isolated from my friends -or the world- for almost a year. I stopped talking to every guy/girl friend I ever had, including my guy best friend of over three years. So not worth it, but it happened. After leaving my ex, all I wanted to do was get back into my social circle, if there was still any. And if not, look for another one that fitted more who I am now. I spoke to Guy friends just as I did to my girl friends, or who I thought were my friends, whom I had known over years. Half of them tried to made a pass at me. One of them, whom I have known for over FIVE years (and had never been disrespectful to me before) was so disrespectful he implied we would start dating when he came back, on fuck*ng January 2nd. Dude, seriously? Not only that, but he also implied we should have sex. What the fuck? Needless to say, I stopped talking to him. I stopped talking to him and all the others, not before setting them straight.
He is but one of the examples I have of why men are disgusting. Maybe this happens just in my country, in which there seems to be no decency or respect. Maybe it does not (because two of the subjects were American). Maybe men are “just made that way”. Maybe that’s what they were taught to do when a girl near them goes through a break-up. Maybe they think I am the type of girl that will just jump into bed with the first asshole that crosses her path, Yeah.. No. I am not one of the girls that goes through the “rebound” stage. I have not gone crazy and wild and started partying. I have barely left my house. Last thing I want right now -or ever- is to have a bunch of babosos disrespect me. It’s disgusting. It’s pathetic. It’s disrespectful. It saddens me, and I feel sorry for them. It makes me want to slap them, hard.
It looks like now I will start realizing just how many guy FRIENDS I really ever had.
*I’m not saying all men are like this.